Being Liked

August 15, 2019 at 10:55 am | Posted in Christian Women | Leave a comment

My Praise Notes for August are from my devotional titled Revitalize.  Since school is starting again for most, I remember the low self-esteem I felt during my school years and into early adulthood.  My thoughts today are from the section of my book under Re-Discovering Me — Week 4, Day 4.   

Being Liked

Have you ever been desperate for people to like you? Thinking back to my pre-Christian days, I remember feeling if I could only be a member of that club or have that car or live on that street, then people would like me. I did get applause for my performance in a musical, boosting my self-esteem from a minus 10 to a minus 5. It was an improvement but not a lasting one. After learning grooming tips through a modeling course, my lack of confidence still hurt my attempts to audition, do well on job interviews, and relax when meeting new people. It was a painful, confusing time in my early adult life but it was my pain, and I was going to exercise my prideful right to hang on to it.

When striving to be “liked” by others, people with low self-esteem often give into peer and family pressure. Criticism, even if constructive, can be taken as a slap. The great fear of rejection especially interferes with the giving and receiving of love.

Jesus understands.

“…He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem. Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering,” (Isaiah 53: 2-4).

Even women who know the Lord struggle with trading self-esteem for Christ-esteem. It’s a spiritual battle that requires full surrender to the Holy Spirit living within us. (Ephesians, Chapter 6)

In the Book of Romans, Paul confirms,

“…we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us,” (Romans 5:3-5).

Through Christ’s sacrifice for us, we are far beyond being liked. (John 15:13) We are totally and unconditionally approved of, loved, and accepted by God. Jesus desires to be our closest and most intimate friend.


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